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The Unlocked Heart

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  I was recently watching Bel-Air , the new remake, and there was this one episode that stuck with me. A group of youth were in what looked like a circle, and each had to share their deepest, darkest secret. My first thought was, why would I do that? No one is holding me in that circle. If it were me, I’d just walk away. Because in my mind, sharing secrets makes you vulnerable and vulnerability has always felt like handing someone the ammunition to hurt you later. Thankfully i am evolving bit by bit. Then, last month, I started a Yale course on the science of well being. It challenged me to look at this differently. What if secrets aren’t just about weakness? What if sharing them is actually a way of opening up and building connection? Think about it. The good things we do rarely stay secret. They tend to show themselves without much effort. But the mistakes, the hurts, the embarrassing parts of us those are what we guard most fiercely. And the longer we keep them locked up,...
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Truthful Friendships

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The other day I caught myself thinking about how differently I speak to strangers versus how I speak to my friends. With strangers, I’m confident I’ll say, “That wasn’t right,” or “Maybe try this instead.” But with friends, it’s like my voice softens or disappears. I tiptoe. I look for the “right” moment. Sometimes, I say nothing at all. I’ve started to wonder why. Maybe it’s fear, fear of hurting them, fear of losing the friendship, or even fear of being judged. And yet, if I care about someone, shouldn’t I also care enough to gently tell them the truth? Recently, I’ve been learning some approaches that feel less intimidating. For example: ·        Ask first: “Would you like my thoughts on this?” gives your friend a choice and prepares them. ·        Frame it as care, not criticism: Begin with “I’m sharing this because I value you and want to see you thrive…” ·        Use gentle questi...
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Time discipline

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  Over the weekend, I found myself once again getting worked up about something that has been happening for months. I usually reach the gym early, around 5:10, ready to start. But my coach insists that my workout begins at 5:30. That 15–20 minutes of waiting always gets under my skin. I keep asking for my set so I can start and finish on time, but the response is often slow or brushed off. By 6:00, I need to leave. That’s non-negotiable for me. At first, I thought the solution was to keep talking to the coach, reminding him of my situation. For a year, I did that. Nothing changed. So the real question became: why was I still getting frustrated every single time? The answer, I realized, is that I value structure and time discipline. When those are not respected, I feel dismissed. But the gym also gives me convenience it’s close by, its free since the coach is paid for by the institution and I can be in and out in an hour. So maybe the cost of that convenience is dealing with a c...
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Smart saving.

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  Sometimes we think making money only means hustling harder or adding new income streams. But over the years, I’ve learned that saving smartly can be just as powerful sometimes even more freeing than chasing after a side hustle. Let me share three small but life-changing examples. Makeup Magic . A few years ago, I was tired of sitting in salons for hours, paying good money, and wasting even more time. I thought, why not learn this skill myself ? I invested UGX 250,000 in a short class, and since then, I’ve never looked back. With a tiny makeup kit my go-to jewellery are gold and silver for that subtle elegance I can be ready in under 30 minutes. I look fabulous, save transport costs, and most importantly, I save time. And the more I practice, the better I get. That one decision has saved me countless shillings and hours. Quality Over Quantity . Once upon a time, I was the queen of downtown shopping cheap shoes, quick buys, lots of repairs. But I realized something: buying ch...
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Healthy Shift

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  Sometimes change doesn’t announce itself with loud fanfare. It happens quietly, almost un noticeably, until one day you look around and realize something has shifted. That is exactly how I felt recently when I noticed a subtle but powerful change in Kampala. Several years ago, when I worked in the city and took a commuter taxi home, the most common roadside snacks were simple, crunchy treats: roasted maize, groundnuts, hard corns, banana crisps, and potato crisps. They were tasty, affordable, and easy to munch on through an hour of traffic. For as little as 500 or 1,000 shillings, you had your fill. But let’s be honest they were not the healthiest habits to indulge in every single day. Fast forward to now, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised. Instead of the familiar boxes of crisps and biscuits, I am seeing more baskets filled with fruits. Apples, oranges, mangoes, bananas, even grapes and blueberries, are now making their way through the same traffic lanes. To me, this is mor...
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Embracing Age

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  Somewhere along the way, “aging well” stopped meaning “taking care of yourself” and started meaning “pretending you’re younger than you are.” Skincare isn’t just about nourishing your skin anymore it’s about fighting wrinkles, erasing lines, and holding on to a number that’s long gone. But why is it so hard for us to simply look our age? If I’m 30, I don’t want to look 18. If my genes give me a naturally youthful look, fine, but chasing youth for its own sake feels like running on a treadmill that never stops. Because no matter how good your creams, your treatments, or your makeup, time will still move forward. And if your goal is to look younger forever, you’ll only measure yourself by how much you’ve “failed” to stop it. What if instead of fighting age, we embraced it? Looking your age isn’t a problem it’s a privilege. Every wrinkle, every laugh line, is proof that you’ve lived, laughed, cried, and survived. When you embrace your age, you stop wasting time and money trying ...
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Slow success

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  We live in a world that celebrates speed. Become a millionaire at 25. Launch your own company at 21. Win awards before you can legally rent a car. And then there’s the constant reminder online “What were you doing at this age?” Usually, I was playing, studying, or just living life. And that was okay. But now it feels like we’ve been taught that if you’re not “making it” fast, you’re falling behind. The problem is, when you race to the top too soon, you might find yourself stuck there, unsure what’s next. Imagine reaching your “dream life” at 22 where do you go from there? The faster you get there, the longer you have to risk coming down. It’s like food. Chicken used to be a treat for special occasions. You’d eat it maybe at Easter or on a birthday, and it was magical. Then you start having it every weekend. After a while, even the chicken gets boring. You start looking for the next “upgrade” because the old excitement is gone. Success works the same way when you get it all...
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