Jacky's Corner

  I dentity is complex, fluid, and often shaped by context, perception, and even the expectations of others. The struggle to define yourself in a way that feels whole yet adaptable is something many people experience. I am an employee,   daughter,   friend, sibling, auntie, mother, girl, woman, lady, counsellor etc all these are identities and none of them cancel the others out. Society loves😍 boxes, but you don’t have to live in them. When others react oddly , it might be because they are uncomfortable with fluidity or t hey might be testing power dynamics . When overwhelmed, ground yourself in a core truth in a statement like "I’m a work in progress and that’s okay." I try to remember that i don’t owe anyone a perfect 😊label. The confusion i feel is proof that I am multidimensional.

  This week my body has been communication a lot😀, and it reminded me that “if you don’t take care of me, I will make you miserable😏”. I listened, drunk water, did my best to eat healthy, exercised and even appreciated myself every step of the way. I love being healthy, I feel wonderful but some days it just feels a little bit tough 😊and I have to remember that I am doing this for a wonderful long life not a sickly, miserable short life. I am responsible for all that I am and for all that I am not. I will do my best to have a great life.

  This week was aloot. I kept repeating myself. At some point I felt like dejavu. I would explain my self, my concerns and repercussion of our actions and somehow by the end of the discussion, I felt like I had to reexplain, same scenario, same concerns and repercussion to the next person, and the next and the week went on like that. It was very frustrating and all I could look forward to was the weekend. I do hope this week is better, I will try to be more understanding and calmer because at the back of my mind I do know that the more widely I explain something the more people come to understand an appreciate it which can easily result in some much-needed changes in the right direction. I also kept reflecting abit. Do others feel this frustrated when explaining to me too…?